An Open Letter to Christians Upset About the Phil Robertson Brouhaha

Dear Christian, I know it’s very upsetting to hear that Phil Robertson was suspended from Duck Dynasty for his controversial anti-homosexuality comments. A&E should know better than to risk the wrath of red-blooded American conservatives. If you're upset about all this, here's what I'd like to say to you: A&E is a privately owned company that can do whatever they want. If they want to suspend Phil, they can. If they want to cancel Duck Dynasty, they can. It’s not like Read more

A Conversation With Jesus

Have you ever stopped and really imagined what it would be like to sit down, one-on-one with Jesus? Imagine sitting at the breakfast table before you head out to work, drinking your coffee; you hear a knock at the door and Jesus Christ is standing there: He doesn’t even have to say, “Hi, I’m Jesus” because I already knew who he was the moment I saw Him. There’s something about those eyes, they’re not what I expected. They’re so full Read more

Whose Body Is It Anyway?

My last blog post “All God’s Daughters Wear Bikinis?” has stirred up quite a reaction. It seems that modesty is an issue that needs to be addressed more often. I believe part of the reason for this longing is that there’s been a lack of teaching and instruction. I can honestly say that, as a man, it’s awkward to address the issue of modesty to a woman, but I believe it’s necessary. I truly believe that most young women Read more

All God's Daughters Wear Bikinis?

Let me ask a question to all the God-fearing, Jesus-loving, Christian women out there: Would you post a picture of yourself on Facebook in just your bra and panties? Would you let your daughter? A question to the God-fearing, Jesus-loving, Christian men: What would you think and feel if a woman walked up to you in the mall and took off her shirt and shorts and started talking to you in her underwear? Would you tell her to stop? Would Read more

The Worst Christian Tradition

I know this will upset some people, but it’s time to stop the worst tradition in the Christian Church. What could that be, you ask? The practice of washing people’s feet. In case you don’t know, Jesus washed the disciple’s feet before the Last Supper (John 13). Jesus even said, “And since I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet.” (John 13:14) Some church denominations have made this an ordinance. Other Read more

Media Feeding Frenzy & Racism

Why do we get so consistently played by the media? I sometimes feel like we’re living in an episode of “Punk’d” and Ashton Kutcher is going to run out laughing at us for getting caught up in another media feeding frenzy. The media and news outlets would have us believe that America is on the brink of race riots and civil war. Really? Interviewed after the trial, juror B37 told Anderson Cooper that the jurors had no idea the trial Read more

Today I Did Not Meet Jesus

Churches attract all kinds of interesting characters. Today, Jesus showed up. I don’t mean that in a spiritual “I found Jesus” way, I mean a guy calling himself “Jesus” actually came to our church. I tried to greet him even though he had headphones in, but when he saw me sticking my hand out to shake his hand, he only held up his palm and pointed at it. At first, I wondered if he was deaf and mute and Read more

Confession and Repentance

Throughout our entire lives, we will sin. This is a fact. Maybe if you’re a really righteous, super spiritual Christian, you might string together an amazing streak of two or three whole days without sinning! Congratulations. This is why we have to live in an ongoing state of confessing our sins and repenting before God. Confession and repentance is not a prayer you prayed one time, this is a lifestyle choice. This ongoing cycle does not reflect flakiness, but the opposite: Read more

The Bible Loves Science: Part 2

The Bible was inspired by God. It's obvious because it reveals scientific facts hundreds and sometimes thousands of years before men discovered these facts for themselves. It could have only been inspired by an all-knowing God who loves us. God and Medicine. 9. God told Abraham to circumcise male children on the eighth day of life. Circumcision is the only surgery described in the bible. “It is only in the last few decades that it has been found that the eighth day Read more

The Bible Loves Science

One might think that with scientific advances, the Bible would be ripped to shreds by opponents and secular academia. The Bible is a compilation of scripture that was written between about 4000 and 2000 years ago. Think of all the scientific misinformation that has been corrected in recent history. Not long ago scientists believed whole-heartedly that: the world was flat, blood-letting cured disease, the sun revolved around the earth, and that black people and women were less intelligent. Based on how Read more

When Men Dress Like Boys

We live in a casual world these days. People get married barefoot and many guys don’t even own a pair of slacks. The church world has also become increasingly casual, and this is a welcome change. It’s important that the church is open and welcoming to all people regardless of social status or wealth.

Listen, I’m a huge fan of casual. I welcome the opportunity to wear shorts and flip-flops. The casual culture of Arizona is one my favorite parts of living here. What’s not okay is for men to continue dressing like boys for their entire life. That’s right; men are egregious abusers of our world’s casual culture.

I’ve been to two funerals in the last few months, and seen grown men wearing jeans and t-shirts. I’ve been to formal weddings recently where grown men are dressed as if they’re running errands around town. I’m not looking to condemn someone who’s struggling financially, nor am I talking about wearing name brands or certain styles. I’m concerned that grown men are being selfish and inconsiderate. Hey Peter Pan, it’s time to grow up.

I remember when I was a little boy and my mom would tell me what to wear to church on Sundays. I would fight and scream because I didn’t want to wear scratchy uncomfortable “church-clothes.” I wanted to wear my play clothes. I wanted to wear my superman shirt, because it gave me super-powers! I wanted to wear camouflage pants, because those pants made me cool! As a little boy, I wanted to be comfortable and cool; but as a grown man, I want to be respectful and considerate.

This isn’t a matter of money. The poorest of the poor college students can find lightly used dress-clothes at Goodwill. Even Americans below the poverty line can piece together a dress shirt and slacks for the price of a pizza. This is an issue of extended adolescence.

Fellas, it’s time for an etiquette lesson. When you’re invited to a formal wedding or choose to attend a funeral, you need to put on dress clothes. You can wear whatever you want the rest of the year, and that’s fine, but when you attend a special event in someone else’s honor, you show them honor by presenting your best. That means you say “no” to your superman shirt, and you put on your big boy clothes. You suffer through the torment of scratchy collars and non-stretchy pants in order to show respect and honor to someone else. If you attend a funeral in blue jeans, you send a very clear message: “This day is about me and what I want…comfort.”

Guys, it doesn’t matter if you’re a blue-collar worker, a hipster poet, or a surf-shop owner. If you’re old enough to shave, you need to go buy yourself dress pants, dress shoes, a belt, and a shirt with buttons all the way up the front. You are now equipped to attend a “dressy” event without embarrassing yourself and disrespecting your host. Congratulations, you’re on your way to manhood.

If you choose to get married in Chuck Taylor’s, or have a Hawaiian themed funeral when you die, then more power to you, warrior. Those days are about you, so you get to call the shots. But don’t live a self-centered existence that places your wants above showing love to others. One way to serve your brother and show tangible love is to place your wants, your rights, and your comfort last. Dead last.

Maybe you’ll have to forgo the pleasure of a pizza, say no a couple “guy’s-night” outings, or delay buying a new man-toy in order to purchase yourself some dress clothes. But that’s okay; in fact, it’s good. When you deny yourself and sacrifice for others, you’re acting like Jesus. He gave up every conceivable measure of comfort for us, so the least we can do is give up our Levi’s for someone we care about.

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